The Fruitless Trees

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A fruitless tree is still a tree, right? It might be fruitless but it is still flowering. According to horticulturist, arborist and garden columnist, Tony Tomeo, 'the flowering trees provide the profuse bloom without so much maintenance and potential mess. Because they were developed as ornamental trees, their flowers are more impressive, with many more shades of pink, as well as white. Many have big and fluffy double flowers.' Almond, cherry, peach, plum, apricot and prune trees can be fruitless flowering trees.

After that metaphorical introduction, I would like to address a very sensitive issue concerning infertility and the social taboos that come with it. I started getting into IVF procedures 10 years ago, at the age of 31. Ιn total we undergone three cycles, one short and two long; all three had a huge affect on me, due to hormonal instability (my hashimoto disease included), mood swings and serious complications, such as ovarian hyperstimulation that almost sent me to the hospital. Despite the stress, the long waiting hours, the fact that all three were unsuccessful, I never regretted having them, but I also never had second thoughts for deciding never to have another one. It was a mutual decision between the Duke and myself, because at the end of the day, all we wanted is to be together, the two of us. If a baby came, that would be amazing, but, even if it didn't, we still had each other. And so we stopped.

Children are not trophies or extra points to life's point system, they are human beings that need you to be well to love, hold and look after them, which will not be possible if you are ill or unhappy. Not all of us must have children, no matter the cost, not just the huge amounts of money spent but also the mental, and the great impact all these artificial hormones have on a woman's body.

In my opinion, IVF is a very complicated and demanding set of circumstances that has been taken lightly by doctors and women and their spouses over the years. You need to be psychologically, mentally and physically at your 100% to undergo such a procedure, you must be happy with your partner with or without the possibility of a child, and last but not least, you need a great team of doctors by your side that look at you as a human being and not as a bank account.

Not all trees must have fruit. We decided that we are more than OK just to be flowering (fruitless) trees. Together. Just the two of us.

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